Your Contract Won’t Protect You: Navigating Legal Compliance in Matchmaking

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Welcome to the Matchmaker Mentor
Podcast with Arlene Washburn,

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the show where love, industry
professionals, coaches, and

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matchmakers come to learn, grow,
and elevate their craft.

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conversations designed to help
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connections and lasting success.
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just starting your journey, this
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motivated, and moved to make a
difference in the world of love.

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Now here's your host, Arlene
Washburn.

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Welcome back to the Matchmaker
Mentor Podcast, and here's where

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we're going to begin.
Your contract will not protect

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you from chargebacks, it will
not protect you from a

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regulatory complaint, and it
will not protect you if it

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conflicts with mandatory
consumer protection laws.

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That may sound dramatic.
It is not.

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Professional matchmaking is
built on trust, but trust does

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not replace structure, and
structure does not replace legal

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compliance.
Most matchmakers obsess over

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building positioning,
testimonials, and client

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experience.
Very few understand what

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actually determines the outcome
when a client demands a refund,

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disputes a charge, or challenges
your terms, contracts, refund

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mechanisms, jurisdiction, choice
of law, mandatory consumer

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protection, privacy frameworks,
documentation, standards.

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These are not administrative
details.

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They determine whether your
agreement is enforceable, they

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determine whether you keep your
revenue, and they determine

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whether your business survives A
dispute.

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Today's episode was originally
scheduled as a conversation with

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Peter Namias, who works very
closely with the IMC Board in

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mediation and arbitration
matters.

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Peter sees what happens after
the breakdown, he sees what

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happens when a contract is
tested, and he sees where

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documentation fails.
Peter is admitted to the bar in

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New Jersey and New York and
teaches law at an American

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University in Madrid.
His cross jurisdictional

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experience makes him
particularly valuable in a

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profession that increasingly
operates across borders.

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Unfortunately, our recorded
conversation have technical

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issues and rather than
postponing this topic, I'm

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delivering the core framework in
this solo episode.

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Peter will return and when he
does, we will go even deeper

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into dispute mechanisms and
enforcement realities.

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Let's jump in, but here's a
legal disclaimer.

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Before we begin, an important
clarification.

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I am not a lawyer.
I'm not acting as your attorney,

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and nothing in this episode
constitutes legal advice.

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The content shared here is
educational.

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Its purpose is to help
professional matchmakers

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understand risk exposure and
identify the legal questions

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they should be asking qualified
counsel in the jurisdictions

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where they operate and serve
clients.

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Consumer protection laws,
contract enforceability rules,

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privacy obligations, and dispute
procedures vary by country,

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State, province, and by how your
agreement is formed.

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You are responsible for
obtaining independent legal

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advice specific to your business
model, geography, and client

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base before implementing or
modifying contracts, refund

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policies, or compliance
procedures.

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Why contracts fail matchmakers.
Let's jump in.

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Let's start with the framework.
Your contract does not exist in

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a vacuum.
It exists inside multiple layers

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of rules that can include
consumer protection laws in your

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home jurisdiction, regional or
state level rules where you are

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established, consumer protection
laws tied to where the client

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resides and where the agreement
was formed.

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Rules that can attach based on
how your market and sell,

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including cross-border and
online selling requirements,

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payment processor policies and
card network chargeback rules,

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platform policies.
If you operate online data

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protection and privacy
frameworks.

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Your contract can say whatever
you want, but if your contract

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conflicts with mandatory
consumer protections, those

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protections can override your
contract terms.

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That is the core risk.
So let's start with point #1

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Jurisdiction is the foundation.
And before we talk about what

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goes into your contract, we need
to define jurisdiction.

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Jurisdiction refers to the legal
authority of a court, regulator,

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or legal system to govern a
particular matter.

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For matchmakers, jurisdictions
affect which laws can apply to

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your client relationship, which
consumer protections can attach

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to the transaction, where
disputes can be filed or

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escalated, which data privacy
rules govern how you handle

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client information.
Here is the practical reality.

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Many matchmakers operate across
multiple jurisdictions.

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At the same time.
Your risk profile often depends

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on three key areas.
Where your business is

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headquartered and registered,
where the client resides and

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where the agreement was formed.
Where you market and target

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consumers.
Let me make that concrete.

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I'll give you an example.
London-based matchmaker with AUS

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client.
You are headquartered in London.

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You operate as a UK business.
Your baseline obligations can

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include UK consumer protections,
UK GDPR and rules tied to

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distance selling when a client
signs remotely.

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Now you sign a client who lives
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At that point, you need to
understand whether your service

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model triggers New York's rules
for certain introduction or

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referral services.
And this matters because

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regulators do not care what you
call yourself, they care what

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you do.
So instead of guessing, the

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correct question becomes, does
your service model fit the legal

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definition of a regulated
dating, social, referral or

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introduction service in that
jurisdiction?

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In New York, some categories of
the service faced very specific

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statutory requirements.
Then those requirements can

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include cancellation language,
formatting, refund mechanisms,

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term limits, and in some
situations, even rules what

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effect pricing structure.
So rather than assuming your

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premium contract is
automatically compliant, you

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need counsel to confirm whether
your service fits the statue,

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whether an exemption applies,
and what disclosures and

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consumer rights must be
included.

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I'll give you a second example.
Australian matchmaker marketing

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globally.
You're based in Sydney, you have

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a website that ranks globally,
and you run ads targeting

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professionals in multiple
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Australia has very strong
consumer protection rules under

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Australian consumer law and
privacy obligations under the

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Privacy Act framework and
Australian Privacy Principles

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for covered entities.
Now here is where people get

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sloppy cooling off.
Rights in Australia can exist in

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specific context, such as
unsolicited sales and certain

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transaction types.
They do not automatically apply

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as a universal rule to every
consumer agreement, so you

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cannot paste a single
cancellation window into your

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contract and assume it works for
every sale channel.

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The formation method matters.
Online sale, phone sale, in

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person, unsolicited approach.
Each channel can trigger

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different mandatory
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I'll give you a third example.
US matchmaker serving EU clients

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You're based in the United
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You also serve clients who
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If you process personal data of
EU residents, GDPR can apply

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regardless of where you're
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If your contracts with EU
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selling channels, EU consumer
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EU and UK rules often provide a
14 day withdrawal right for

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distance contracts.
If a client asked you to start

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services during that window,
they may still cancel and owe a

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prorated amount for work
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In some situations, the
withdrawal right can be limited

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after full performance.
When you obtain proper consent

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and made proper disclosures,
that means your contract needs

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to address these mechanics
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A generic three day cancellation
clause might not match the

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client's mandatory rights.
And here's the thing you might

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be thinking.
Highest standards wins.

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Let me bust that myth right now
because you will hear people say

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that over and over again.
The highest standards wins.

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That slogan helps matchmakers
understand risk.

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But law does not apply through a
global scoreboard.

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Here is the accurate version.
When you operate across

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jurisdictions, you cannot
contract around mandatory

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consumer protections that can
apply based on the client's

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location and how the agreement
was formed.

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So your contract and policies
should accommodate those

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mandatory rights.
That is the responsible

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approach.
Point #2 Consumer protection

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frameworks vary by region.
Different regions regulate

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matchmaking and introduction
services in different ways.

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In the US, there is state by
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Some states have statues that
specifically regulate certain

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dating, social, referral, or
introduction services.

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Those statues can require
minimum cancellation windows,

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refund formulas tied to unused
services, specific disclosures

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and formatting requirements, in
some cases bonding,

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registration, or other
requirements.

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Other states rely on general
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general consumer protection
rules still matter.

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Misleading marketing, unclear
terms, unfair practices, those

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can trigger disputes anywhere.
European Union and United

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Kingdom regulate distance and
off premise consumer contracts

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heavily.
Key concepts often include a

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withdrawal right for distance
contracts, mandatory pre

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contract information disclosure,
plain language and transparency

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standards.
Now let's talk about consumer

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protections that can override
contract clauses.

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Australia consumer law prohibits
misleading or deceptive conduct.

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Unfair contract terms can be
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Certain sale channels can
trigger cooling off rules.

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State based licensing can apply
to certain introduction agent

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models.
Canada combines federal and

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provincial rules.
Marketing, privacy, contract

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formation and cancellation
rights can vary by province.

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Quebec can impose particularly
strict consumer protections.

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Asia Pacific jurisdictions vary
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Some have strong consumer and
privacy statues.

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Some regulate advertising
aggressively.

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You need jurisdiction mapping if
you market and sell across

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borders.
Bottom line point #3 statues can

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be extremely specific.
I want to use New York as a

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teaching example, not because
every listener operates there.

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Because New York illustrates the
central point.

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Some jurisdictions require very
specific contract features for

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certain service models.
For example, statues can require

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a cancellation notice placed
near the signature line,

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specific headings, and minimum
font sizes.

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And that's not just New York.
There are other states with

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similar requirements.
There there's required language

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on cancellation rights and
refund mechanisms.

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If a statue requires specific
formatting and language and your

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contract does not include it,
you weaken your position in

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disputes and in some cases you
may increase regulatory

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exposure.
So here is the correct take

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away.
Do not copy what another

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matchmaker uses.
If I had a nickel for every time

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I had a matchmaker ask me for a
contract they could copy.

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I wouldn't need to run a school.
Do not assume a template works

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globally.
Do not assume premium pricing

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makes you exempt.
Instead, confirm whether your

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model triggers A regulated
category in each jurisdiction

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you serve.
Then draft the right disclosure,

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cancellation mechanism and
refund mechanism for that model

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point #4 cooling off and
cancellation rights, which vary

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by channel and jurisdiction.
One of the most common errors

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matchmakers make is writing a
contract that includes no

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cancellation rights, a
cancellation window that does

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not match mandatory rights, or
refund language that conflicts

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with consumer protections.
You need 2 concepts.

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First, cancellation windows can
be mandated by statute in some

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places.
Second, distance selling and

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online contracting can trigger
additional rights in the EU and

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UK and in Australia.
Cooling off rights can exist in

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specific contexts, such as
unsolicited sales.

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The correct strategy is to map
where you market, where your

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clients reside, how the contract
is formed, what statues apply to

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your specific service model.
Then you implement cancellation

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language that matches those
requirements.

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Point #4 Refund policies must
match the real service model.

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Here's where matchmakers get
into disputes.

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A refund policy can sound
protective but fail under

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pressure because it does not
match actual operations.

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If your policy says refunds are
based on introductions

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delivered, but you run a search
based service model where most

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labor happens before
introductions, you created a

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mismatch.
That mismatch becomes a dispute

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magnet.
A better approach is to

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structure refund logic around
phases of service.

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For example, phase one could be
onboarding and strategy that

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would include intake and profile
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and strategy, operational setup.
Phase two could mean search and

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recruitment, active recruiting
and vetting, background checks

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and verification where
applicable, match curation.

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Phase 3 is the actual
introductions and support,

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arranged introductions, feedback
loops, adjustments and ongoing

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support.
Now I need to say this clearly,

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a phase based model cannot
override mandatory consumer

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protections during any statutory
cancellation window.

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The client's mandatory rights
control.

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So your contract needs language
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accommodates those rights.
Full stop.

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Point number six, choice of law
and venue do not eliminate

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mandatory rights.
Choice of law determines which

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jurisdictions laws govern the
contract.

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Venue determines where disputes
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A common mistake is assuming a
choice of law clause eliminates

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consumer protections.
It does not.

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Many jurisdictions restrict
unfair terms that strip

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consumers of statutory rights or
force inconvenient forms, so you

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need a clause that acknowledges
mandatory consumer rights can

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still apply.
A lawyer should draft this for

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your situation.
Your goal is enforceability and

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fairness.
Point #7 Data protection is not

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optional and is jurisdiction
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A privacy policy is not
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In many jurisdiction it is
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separate from your terms of
service.

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Your terms govern the service
relationship.

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Your privacy policy governs data
collection, use, sharing,

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retention and rights.
If you process data of EU

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residents, GDPR can apply.
Canada has PEPITA and provincial

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privacy rules.
Australia has the Privacy Act

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framework and Australian privacy
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US privacy laws vary by state.
Here is another critical fix.

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Breach notification timing is
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Some regimes impose tight
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Your incident response plan must
map to the jurisdictions that

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apply to your business, and one
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matchmakers commit is sharing
profiles with collaborators

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without clear disclosure and
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If you share data with partners,
your documentation and consent

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process should match the
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And we are back now for point

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#8.
Marketing and Advertising

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Standards vary globally.
Where you market matters.

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If you advertise into a
jurisdiction, regulators can

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treat your marketing as
targeting their consumers.

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In the US, the Federal Trade
Commission Act prohibits

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deceptive practices.
In the UK, the Advertising

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Standards Authority enforces
truth in advertising.

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EU rules prohibit unfair
commercial practices.

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Australia prohibits misleading
or deceptive conduct.

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Canada prohibits false or
misleading representations, so

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matchmakers need to stop
treating marketing as separate

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from compliance point #9
guarantees create legal

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exposure.
Guaranteed match.

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Let's pause over here because I
want to explain what this means.

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When matchmakers say guaranteed
matches, they often mean

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guaranteed introductions.
And introductions are absolutely

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something you control.
The risk is not the word.

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The risk is ambiguity.
If your website implies

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chemistry, compatibility or
relationship success, but your

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contract defines a match as an
introduction, you've created a

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disconnect.
Your website, sales language,

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and contract must all mean the
same thing.

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If match means facilitated
introduction, say that clearly.

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Don't hide it in the fine print.
Don't inflate it in marketing,

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because when disputes happen,
regulators and payment

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processors look at everything
you said, not just what's in

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your contract.
Consistency protects you.

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Another term that is problematic
is guarantee sold me guaranteed

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relationship.
That language does not create

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confidence, it creates
enforceable obligations you

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cannot control, and it invites
disputes and regulatory

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scrutiny.
You can commit to deliverables

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you control.
You cannot promise outcomes you

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do not control.
A safer approach is define the

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service model.
Define deliverables.

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Define timelines you control,
define remedies for failures

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within your control.
Now point #10 alternative

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dispute resolution is a tool,
not a shield.

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Many matchmakers add arbitration
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That can work in some
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It can be restricted or deemed
unfair altogether in others,

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especially in consumer settings.
So you need jurisdiction,

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appropriate ADR language.
A safe best practice in

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restrictive jurisdictions is to
make ADR optional or post

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dispute.
And you still need a strong

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compliant handling pathway
because ADR does not stop

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chargebacks, regulatory
complaints or platform reports.

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Now look, we've covered a lot
already and we're only

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scratching the surface.
If this episode is helping you

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think differently about
contracts, compliance and risk

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exposure, take a moment to
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actually tested.
Forward this episode to a

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colleague who may need to hear
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criticism, but as a professional
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This industry improves when we
raise standards together and

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save this episode.
There is a lot here that you

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will want to revisit before you
sit down with your attorney to

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review or update your agreement.
Compliance is not a one time

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event, it's an operational
discipline.

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OK, now to .11.
Payment processors and

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chargebacks can override your
preferred outcome.

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Here's what matchmakers do not
want to hear In chargebacks,

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Card network rules and processor
policies often control the

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outcome.
Common chargeback triggers

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include services not delivered
as described, client claims of

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unauthorized charge, claims that
marketing misrepresented the

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service, lack of documentation,
and fraud concerns.

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Processors also monitor
chargeback ratios.

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Elevated ratios can lead to
reserves, monitoring programs,

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higher fees, or termination
altogether.

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So what protects you is not a
cause.

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What protects you is
documentation, evidence

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packages, clear service
timelines, written

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communications.
Prove that what you promised

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matches what you deliver.
Point #12 when the contract

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becomes a liability.
A contract can hurt you when it

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contradicts your marketing.
It includes clauses that

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conflict with mandatory rights.
It promises services levels you

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do not deliver.
It is so 1 sided that a court

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views it as unfair.
It does not match your current

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service model.
It ignores privacy and data

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sharing realities.
This is why templates fail.

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A contract from one jurisdiction
can be a liability in another.

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A contract written years ago can
miss key updates.

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Your contracts should be
jurisdiction appropriate,

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service model specific, updated
regularly, aligned with actual

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operations, written clearly,
point #13 required disclosures

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and formatting requirements.
Many jurisdictions require

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specific disclosures in specific
formats for certain service

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models that can include
cancellation notices placed near

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signature lines, mandatory
headings, and minimum font

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sizes.
Pre contract information

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requirements, disclosure of how
services work and what the

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consumer is buying, clear refund
mechanisms, privacy disclosures

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and data sharing consent.
So your workflow needs a

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compliance step, not after a
dispute before you take payment

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.14 Accessibility and plain
language reduce risk.

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Contracts that are unreadable,
hidden or presented under

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pressure increase your risk.
Many consumer protection regimes

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look at transparency, so best
practices include plain

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language, clear headings,
reasonable font sizes, easy

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access before payment and time
to review and accessibility

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aware presentations for digital
documents.

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A court regulator or a payment
processor will ask whether the

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average consumer could
understand what they agreed to.

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Make that easy.
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The topic is client screening
and duty of care.

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What you actually owe.
Let's shift away from contracts

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for a moment and talk about
something equally important.

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Client screening.
Many matchmakers say I'm not

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responsible for what happens
between adults.

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That mindset is risky.
You are not responsible for

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chemistry.
You are not responsible for

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relationship success, but you do
have operational

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responsibilities.
If you accept payment to

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introduce individuals, you are
representing that.

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You are exercising reasonable
care in how you screen that and

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present clients.
Because if something goes wrong

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and you have no screening
protocol, no documentation, no

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disclosure of limitations, no
escalation process, you weaken

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your defensibility.
Screening is about having a

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documented, repeatable process.
Professional matchmakers should

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be able to clearly explain what
level of background screening

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they perform, what they verify,
what they do not verify, how

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limitations are disclosed, how
red flags are documented, when a

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client is declined, when
something goes wrong.

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The question regulators,
attorneys, and payment

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processors ask is simple.
What process did you follow?

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If there is no written protocol,
no documentation, and no defined

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escalation path, defensibility
weakens quickly.

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Screening protects your clients,
your reputation, and your

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business.
Now, before we go, here are some

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implementation questions every
matchmaker should be able to

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answer before signing another
client.

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What consumer protection rules
can apply based on where I'm

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established, where my clients
reside, and how my agreements

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are formed?
Does my contract reflect

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mandatory cancellation and
refund rights tied to my client

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base and sales channels?
Which privacy framework applies

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to my client data, and does my
privacy policy match my real

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data handling practices?
Do I include required

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disclosures in the proper
format?

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When my service model triggers
regulated categories in a

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jurisdiction?
What documentation system proves

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service delivery and supports
dispute defense, including

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chargebacks?
When did qualified counsel last

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review my contract and policies
for the jurisdictions I actually

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serve?
Is my contract clear,

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accessible, and understandable
to the average consumer before

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they pay?
If you cannot answer these, you

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are operating with more risk
than you realize.

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These are exactly the questions
IMC Board helps you answer

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during the accreditation
process.

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IMC Board accreditation is not a
badge only program.

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It is a structured review of
contracts, policies, data

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protection practices, and
compliance readiness across the

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jurisdictions you serve.
During the accreditation

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process, companies receive
jurisdiction aware compliance

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guidance tailored to where they
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Contract and policy review to
identify gaps and missing

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disclosures.
Remediation support with clear,

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actionable steps.
Ongoing education through

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required continuing education.
Access to vetted resources

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including independent ADR
options and compliance tools.

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IMC Board accreditation signals
transparency and accountability.

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Learn more at imcboard.org.
Because compliance is about

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accountability, education, and
doing the work.

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I want to leave you with this.
Your contract is not a shield.

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It is a framework, and it only
works when it aligns with

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ethical operations, compliance
awareness, and documented

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service delivery.
Do not wait for a dispute to

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learn that your contract does
not match your client's

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mandatory rights.
Do not assume a template built

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for one jurisdiction works
globally.

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Instead, operate like a
professional.

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Map your jurisdictions.
Align your marketing to your

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delivery document service
delivery.

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Update your agreements.
Because the best contract is 1.

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You never have to enforce
because you delivered well,

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communicated clearly, and
treated clients fairly.

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Until next time, stay grounded
in your standards, intentional

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in your systems, and committed
to doing this work at a higher

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level.
I'm Arlene Washburn and this is

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the Matchmaker Mentor Podcast.